Blogging and Diplomacy

Having just read a post linked to by a friend of mine, concerning advertising for birth control in the form of the pill, I have found myself so totally incensed by the replies left in answer to the post that I felt the need to have a good rant about the complete lack of diplomacy or tact evidenced by some of those attacking the original poster.

First off – attacking a man for daring to have an opinion on ‘women’s matters’ such as contreceptives is down right silly.  He wasn’t telling us what we can and cannot do to our bodies, just asking us to think rather more carefully before we buy into advertising – the key issue here – and start piping stupid amounts of hormones into our systems.   I have no problem with any of what he said – ultimately, it is a free country and every woman is entitled to make her own mind up about what she does with her body.   Personally speaking, I’ve been on the pill.  When I came off it, I didn’t bleed for 18 months – a fairly common side effect.  I came off the pill because I don’t like how it makes me feel, mentally or physically, and I don’t intend to go back on the pill for exactly the same reasons.   This is a valid reason for me, but it won’t be right for many other woman – and I certainly have never and will never try and tell other women that they should  not go on the pill as a result.   All I want to do is urge people to do the research, and make up their own minds instead of buying into the advertising and media brainwashing that bombards us on a daily basis.

The responsibility we have is to decide for ourselves what we believe, despite the staggering amounts of propaganda out there.   Wading through the often censored information we can access in the media is a daunting process at the best of times, and trying to figure out what is actual useful information and what is advertising is even more tricky.     If we are secure in our beliefs, we shouldn’t need to jump up and down and wave our arms around about it, or be so damn rude to someone else expressing their opinion, whether it agrees with yours or not.

‘To be clear, I’m not anti-technology or anti-medicine.

What I am opposed to is screwing with our health in radical and unnecessary ways and pretending that we have any clue what the consequences are.’

Can someone please point out to me what is so offensive about this guy’s comments?  The one I’ve quoted above makes perfect sense to me and seems like a bloody sensible attitude to have!

All I’m trying to say is that before you post a reply attacking someone else for their beliefs, think for a second about how you would feel in their place upon receipt of the aforementioned criticism.   Critique is fine – it is how we learn and grow and expand our knowledge.  Downright nastiness is childish and ultimately will cause more trouble than it solves.   We are all supposed to be grown ups, so perhaps it is time we started acting like it.

Though I suppose you can’t remove people’s rights to be assholes.  *sigh*

OK.  Rant over.   Apologies if I have caused any offense, I just needed to get this off my chest.   I think in the long run the main issue here is the extraordinary way in which media and advertising subverts our ability to think and behave like rational human beings and make our own decisions.  It makes me deeply sad and very worried about the future.

The blog post in question can be found at

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